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Who is a Scammer? 
 
Keeping in mind the purposes of ALM and Scammer prison, which is shared with CLM, we can broadly define a Scammer as someone who is trying to deceive another member on the website into giving them money for reasons that are not real or true.  ALM has a fairly extensive Scammer detection system, and does a lot of behind the scenes work to try to track down and exterminate these individuals for the roaches that they are, so the usual first step for the Scammer is to lure you away from ALM to someplace safe for communication that is outside ALM's control.  So the Scammer will almost always try to entice you, their intended victim, into conducting personal communications through emails and private chats on places like MSN, Yahoo, and Skype etc. where the Scammer detection system of ALM cannot intrude on their goal to cheat someone like you out of your hard earned money. 
 
How do we define a Scammer?  Our determination of whether they are scamming or not depends on whether they are trying to achieve their goal of getting the member's money by telling lies to trick him/her into providing money or simply trying to obtain money through openly and honestly setting an economic price as a condition of having a relationship.  For example, let's say a person asks you to send $300 cash because her dear old Mom is sick and needs medicine, when in fact Mom is in good health and the member asking for money actually simply wishes to go have a good time at your expense, then she is scamming you. However, if she says she'll be delighted to marry you but only if you first buy her a 2 bedroom condo in her name and hand her the title and the keys the moment the marriage is solemnized, she is not scamming you. There is no doubt that she is a despicable gold digger and why you would possibly want to marry someone under such conditions only you could possibly know. If it were us, we'd choose to bounce her butt down the highway.  However, the fact remains that while she may be negotiating a financial transaction, she is not scamming and it depends entirely on you whether you agree to it or choose to say “no”. Scamming does not depend on the amount of money involved, but whether you’re being tricked into paying it or agree to it out of your own free will with all the facts out in the open. 
 
We put a lot of time and effort into protecting you from being scammed, because we consider it our job to try keeping you from being deceived into giving your money away. This sets CLM and ALM apart from all other dating sites by the way.  But it’s not possible for us to protect you from yourself. If you’re ready to buy some gold digger an expensive condo in order to purchase her agreement to marry you, that’s your business, not ours. 
 
Because it is not easy to know beyond all reasonable doubt whether a person asking for money to pay to purchase meds for dear old Mom is really intending to purchase such meds with your cash, but we do know from experience that 98% of the time she has no true intention to spend the money that way, we've imposed a fairly simple rule to make it easy to determine if she's scamming.  Our rule is simply that if any member asks another member to provide money for any reason that cannot be determined to be true before the money is sent, then it is a Scam by our definition. So if you are being asked to send money now so that the person asking you will do something in the future, you are being scammed. If you're being asked to provide money or something of value later, after the person asking does some act in exchange, then you are not being scammed. 
 
Scams Come In Many Varieties 
 
There are many types of scams that have been attempted on AsiaLoveMatch.net and there will be many more to come.  In addition, there are tons more that have been successfully played on other dating sites that we've subsequently received reports on from new members to ALM.  Some of these scams were around before the internet, and come to us already bearing names. Others we’ve just given tags to on our own. If you’ve encountered or heard about any other type of scam not mentioned here please fill us in and we'll add it to the list. To send something <a href="http://www.asialovematch.net/contactus.aspx?returnurl=http%3a%2f%2fwww.asialovematch.net%2fdatingsafety.aspx%3faction%3das" target="_blank">contact us here</a>. 
 
The Infamous “Nigerian” Scam 
 
This scam got its name because it has been played from sources within Nigeria for many, many years. It was seen coming over faxes when they were the hottest new technology and the internet was still just the twinkle in the US military's eye. It is so dog-eared that it's almost impossible to imagine how people continue to fall for it but they must still do so as it’s still making the rounds. While it is still called the "Nigerian Scam" it can be originating from persons within any country or geographical area, and it goes something like this: 
 
“Hello Sir.  I am Dr. Who from Nigeria (or elsewhere) and I'm not really a beautiful Asian woman seeking a long term relationship. I just pretended to be that so I could sneak onto this dating site in order to find lucky you and make you really rich. Don't worry that I was lying about that relationship stuff because I assure you I am totally honest and everything I am about to tell you is true. You see I just happen to have a gazillion dollars in an account in Nigeria that really belongs to someone else, and I could not for the life of me think of any other way to get help moving this money out of Nigeria except to join an Asian Dating site and track you down to give me a hand.  Don't worry that this story sounds absolutely ridiculous, because, as I've already assured you, I'm a really honest person. So here's the deal that I could never have made with anyone but you.  I'm going to wire the gazillion dollars to your bank account, and I'm going to give you half just for receiving it and giving the other half back to me. Good deal, huh?  And remember you don't have anything to worry about because I'm a doctor and a really honest man.  So, are you in?" 
 
Now if you are the dullest knife in the drawer you happily suspend all disbelief, you ignore the fact that Dr. Who could have bribed any Nigerian banker he wanted to for considerably less than half a gazillion dollars to help him move this stolen money and you happily indicate your willingness to assist Dr. Who and await further instructions. Being so incredibly naive, you also start planning how you're going to spend your hard earned loot. 
 
Finally, after a couple more messages have been sent to you to confirm what an honest man Dr. Who is, and how real this great deal is, and after you have made a modest down payment on a Ferrari and started thumbing through magazines selling mansions by the sea, some totally unexpected problem arises.  A small bribe is required to appease some government official, or any one of a thousand different emergencies that can be thought up by an honest guy like Dr. Who has arisen and you are now required to wire a small sum, like $1,000 or so, or "all will be lost". 
 
Not willing to forego that sparkling new Ferrari you determine that $1,000 is a small amount to invest in order to receive half a gazillion, and anyway, what else could go wrong? Well it turns out that as many things can go wrong as you are willing to keep sending money to fix.  After you've sent $1,000 and are really invested in this scam, you'll be asked for $2,000 and then $3,000, and so on. 
 
Here's all you have to do when you get a message from some idiot on a dating site telling you that they have a gazillion dollars they want to share with you - slap yourself hard on the forehead for even wondering if it could be true, and REPORT THEM! 
 
To read more about Scammers in general, check out “<a href="http://www.asialovematch.net/datingsafety.aspx?action=dst" target="_blank">Dating Safety Tips</a>” which is available under “Online Dating” in the website upper menu. For more types of scams move on to page 2.

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